My interests include Anthropology, psychology, archaeology, herpetology, (reptiles, amphibians etc.. not herpes), evolutionary psychology, birdwatching, jewelry making, and many others.
Music
Movies
Television
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Heroes
People who stand up and fight for the abused and mistreated.
If you're an Atheist, send me a request if I haven't
sent you one yet...we need to come out of the closet
and create a network! If you send a request, please
explain who you are, if you are not listed as an
Atheist or your profile is private I may not add you.
I don't like those guys who troll myspace to collect
women, so if I don't add you, it's probably because I
thought you were one of *those guys*.
I'm 41. I am a steadfast atheist. If you are
religious, we are not romantically compatible, so
please don't ask me out. I'm not interested in empty
sexual relationships, and that's obviously all you're
looking for if you're religious and hitting on an
Atheist. If you're looking for a friendship though,
our religious differences won't matter. I have
friends from just about every belief system. I look
for a higher level of compatibility when it comes to
romance because I've had too many negative
experiences dating religious men. I've come to the
conclusion it's best to date men who share my core
philosophy.
I am legally married, but not in the sense that most
people are married. Let me explain. I am polyamorous.
This means that although I am married to one husband,
I am open to loving more. This is NOT swinging, I
have nothing against that lifestyle, it just isn't my
thing. I prefer emotional attachment and empty sex
bores the hell outa me...so if you're looking for a
swinger, move on.
How did I come to the conclusion that I would prefer
to be polyamorous? Many years ago, my husband cheated
on me numerous times and after the initial
devastation subsided, I came to the conclusion that I
could not stay with him if we had a monogamous
relationship. I asked him if he wanted to have a
polyamorous relationship. At that time he said no, so
I told him we should separate. I was not willing to keep being
monogamous while he kept cheating on me. We were
separated for over three years but most of that time
we were still living together as friends. We were
legally married but did our own thing. I recently
agreed to stay with him and move to Oklahoma but we
are still not in a *normal* marriage. Consider me a
single married woman. I know, weird, but that is what
best describes me. I consider my husband my close
friend, my partner in life, my co-parent, but I have
no romantic feelings for him. We have a platonic
relationship. He would like it to be more than that,
but I don't know if I'll ever feel for him what I
once did. He's accepted that and is happy that we're
together, in whatever way I can be there.
Now that you know the unusual details of my life, let me state that I am not looking for romance. If a long standing
friendship eventually evolves into a romance, that's
fine with me, but I'm not actively looking for
lovers. If you're reading profiles hoping to hook up
for some casual fun, please move on. Good luck in
your search.
My husband is in the military...we move every few
years. We've been to many places but haven't found
one we'd like to retire in, so who knows where we'll
end up. We are currently stationed in Oklahoma.
I have two sons and a daughter-in-law. My eldest son
is 24, in the Air Force and works on the avionics of
F-16's. His wife is 22, and they have a great
relationship. (She's Kim, top of my friend's list) If anyone questions my unusual
parenting techniques, I can just point to them and
smile...the reality of their relationship speaks
louder than my words ever could. I am proud of who
they are and proud of my son for being a great
husband to his wife. My youngest son is 13 and is
incredibly thoughtful and kind. I homeschool him. (I
homeschooled the eldest too). My children,(and
child-in-law), are the most important thing in my
life and nothing will ever come before them. I firmly
believe your offspring are supposed to come first,
even before your spouse. Giving your children a safe
and healthy environment is your sacred duty...if you
don't see it that way, you shouldn't have them.
On the Enneagram I score a 1 with a 2 wing or a 2
with a 1 wing, depending on my mood at the time. My
scores in 1 and 2 are very close, almost equal, so
they balance each other out. Some links to the
test........
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